I’m not going to say whether this is a good thing or a bad thing. When you’ve been on the planet for close to 40 years, you probably have a pretty good idea about what you’re looking for in a man.
I don’t blame you for a second, and I’m not going to tell you which things you should give up in order to find the man of your dreams.
Men, on the other hand, are just doing what they want and don’t care what anyone thinks about it.
They’re not talking about all the hot chicks they hook up with; they’re out meeting hot chicks.
Even though some of these guys hurt me, each was critical to my journey.
I needed to date around before I said, “I do.” I needed to learn what I didn’t want to figure out what I did.
Alex wasn’t the only ex who helped me recognize the inherent kindness in Frank that I might have otherwise missed.
They want strong, confident, internally validated, powerful Men who can take them on a journey without ever needing them to follow and who have the strength to live their life on their terms, regardless of how she responds. They brag and claim and yell as loud as they can so that everyone knows how important / successful / good they are can validate them accordingly.In this case you're looking for a unicorn (mythical creature that doesn't exist) and you are blind to quality people everywhere you go. Now compare that to what makes you want this person to have this status and what do you bring that parallels it.Basically, what makes you so damn special and what do you bring to the table?You might think that you are increasing your chances of finding the ideal partner by dating according to your checklist. You must be very clear about your needs as opposed to your wants and your "preferences", and what are your absolute deal breakers.In reality you are decreasing your chances of finding the relationship you want if your list is ridiculously long and specific. When you date according to rigid checklists you do a number of things that lower your chances of finding "the one". Think about this too: What is on your list of must haves in a man or woman?