have been part of a series on clingy intimacy, centering on those who fall in love with people with narcissistic tendencies.This often works out poorly for the more dependent party.Some guys come to The Art of Charm knowing they’re needy. In fact, I’d say most men who are being needy in a relationship (or in general) don’t know they’re being needy — or how they’re needy, which can be even trickier to spot.And yet neediness is one of those qualities, like insecurity and general awkwardness, that can fester for years, often without anyone diagnosing it, often without the person even realizing it’s there.Men are usually the ones who complain about their woman getting clingy, but what happens when the tables get reversed? Needy and clingy guys don’t come every day, but when they do come along, they usually find a girl who loves her own independence. Here’s a confession about my own stint as a needy and clingy guy, when that was the last thing I actually wanted to be. I believe in space in love, and I truly understand why a couple needs to stay away from each other now and then.
It may be upsetting to hear, but an overly clingy person can push a more psychologically healthy partner away; and sometimes it’s the real problem in the relationship.
[Read: The real reason why space is so good for a relationship] But sometimes, it’s so easy to just get carried away and smother your partner with your love.
My perfect romance with a perfect girl I’m the kind of guy who would like it if we speak once a day, probably late at night, where we can talk about each other’s day and drop into bed with happy giddy thoughts.
Finding Balance Boosting Your Confidence Community Q&A Have you ever been described as needy or clingy?
Do you get so excited about a new friendship or relationship that you bombard the other person with attention, only to find that the person starts to seem distant?