I’m really proud of him for conveying such a tough message! Why are you hiding behind prayers, vague intentions, group hangouts, and TEXT MESSAGES? If you are clearly leading her on step up and ask her out, or stop leading her on.
It’s like arranged marriages where no one is making the arrangements, and it doesn’t seem to work very well. Here’s what I think it would require: Stop evaluating whether the guy who’s taken an interest in you is strong and tenderhearted enough to raise your future kids.
Yet there is this odd rumor going around that the only important characteristic to look for in a future husband is that he’s a believer. If that’s your only requirement, you could just pick one Russian Roulette-style from the enormous pool of Christian men.
You don’t want to do that, because being a Christian isn’t all that matters. Marrying someone who doesn’t understand you, wants totally different things out of life than you, or doesn’t share any interests with you is a recipe for at best, a very discordant marriage and at worst, a divorce.
“My daughter was interested in this nice Christian boy, but he strung her along for a year and a half.
The next one did too.” Or, “Jeremy acted like they were friends but she told me later that they were hooking up on the side.” With that kind of dismal dating culture at play, let’s consider the options: First, there’s “Duggar Dating.” Duggar dating is the modern-day form of arranged marriages.