ou’ve spotted a profile online you’re smitten with. I’m afraid that if it turns out to not be true, I might wind up in the middle of the Lincoln Center Barnes & Noble curled up in a ball weeping and muttering something about attractive women and the lies they tell, covered in all of Nabokov’s work. I hope it is—the little man who runs my brain has taken over and made me send you a note.However, our panel agrees that his email could have shown a bit more confidence.Also, the astonishment he expresses over her beauty/brains combo could be seen as offensive. She emailed him back, and the two are happily dating. I see that you recently saw the show Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat. I look forward to hearing from you.-Brad The feedback:“The open-ended question doesn’t bother me as much as what the question is about: the play.
Yours, Evan Every line of this message can be thrown out. Because anyone whom you contact knows by virtue of you writing to them that a) you liked their profile, b) you liked their photo and c) you’d like a reply. That, my friends, is what separates the most successful online daters from the rest of the pack. In this case, I’ve written them for men replying to women, but the steps are applicable to everyone: Every word of it.If I could only give one bit of dating advice, it would be to send messages to everyone who takes your fancy.However, when it comes to sending your first message to someone it can be hard to think of what to say.Most of the subject lines will read something like “26/m Boston” or “hey there sexy”.Sure, she’ll probably open a few of those, but after a while, they all start sounding the same.