You will know when you have let go of them because you will be able to think of them without all the old feelings rising to the surface. You are doing it for the right reasons Getting involved in dating for any other reason than because you want to meet someone new and build a happy future for yourself is likely to end in disappointment either for you, your date, or both.
“Dating in midlife and beyond can be daunting,” says relationship psychologist Honey Langcaster-James.
“I thought the recent strange behaviour and care with his phone was because he was planning a big surprise for our anniversary. “It was too complicated a set of feelings; the fury, the devastation, the rehashing of our lives together in the middle of the night, questioning every lovely moment we’d shared.
It was a blur, but I emerged eight months later a stone heavier and feeling like I needed to do something to move on.” So Elizabeth tried online dating and, while she says it certainly had its frustrating moments, after eight months she met Andrew, 51 and they are planning to move in together in time for Christmas.
You are entitled to live a life filled with happiness and if you choose it, that happiness can and should include another love by your side.
You must realize and accept that there is reason to feel guilty about dating and/or seeking companionship once again. The Absence of Anger It is absolutely normal to feel angry at whatever circumstances ended your relationship.