Is dating a good friend a good idea

Lovelies: Yesterday, I was talking about how awesome it was to have Jake Stein* along on the weekend trip--and also talking about how Jake and I went from being best friends to being boyfriend-and-girlfriend for a brief period.The question of our dating came up like this: Jake and I had gone back to his apartment for a nightcap after having dinner together ... Plus, he's very tall and quite handsome--an indubitably attractive guy (whom the ladies generally love).And so I decided that the very best thing I could do was to give it a shot and see what happened--in part because I also felt fairly confident, upon reflection, that my friendship with Jake was strong enough to survive just about anything. " And indeed, it was not.)Still, the break-up--understandable and inevitable though it was--hurt. After all, if I couldn't make it work with this person I cared so deeply about, and got along so well with, how in the hell was I ever going to make It took a few months before Jake and I began to hang out again.But then one afternoon, after we'd both (independently) moved out of D. to return to New York, I was getting my hair cut at my old favorite place--Antonio Prieto--when it dawned on me that I was just down the street from Jake's new office.Turns out, of the 76 percent of respondents who said they’d struck up a relationship with their best friend, 29 percent resulted in marriage.

You downplay your insecurities in hope that he won't see you as clingy, and you suppress the fact that you occasionally get moody, jealous, or pointlessly angry.

Men, perhaps not surprisingly, seem to be more game for the possibility of a romantic rendezvous with their BFF than their female counterparts.

Seventy-six percent of gents are open to a romantic relationship with someone they consider a friend, while 73 percent have had sexual fantasies about that person (versus 58 percent and 51 percent, respectively, of women).

But getting intimate with an acquaintance can cause more harm than good.

Sixty-five percent of participants confirm they’ve seen friendships destroyed by attempts at dating, and 60 percent have seen entire friendship groups dissolve by the same.

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