Think of it as Gmail for strangers: the communication on the site is about two people getting to know each other; the romance comes much later,offline.
Outside researchers rarely get to work with private messages like this — it’s the most sensitive content users generate and even anonymized and aggregated, message data is rarely allowed out of the holiest of holies in the database.
Your hands can get moist and your heart may pound in anticipation of what she might say.
But my unique position as co-founder of Ok Cupid gives us special First, the site’s decade of history lets us see how technology has altered how people communicate.
Ok Cupid has records from the pre-smartphone, pre-Twitter, pre-Instagram days — hell, it was online when Myspace was still a file storage service.
You have a stronger chance of getting a speedy response.
Special Subject Line Crappy openers like ‘Hi there’ or ‘Hi Gorgeous’ are clichéd and most likely to get yawned over and forgotten quickly.